I get character hate, God knows me and Ron Weasley have never been friends.
I get ship hate, I hate Cangel with a burning fire years and her canon death have not quenched
I get fandom hate. Fans can be obnoxious. I can be an obnoxious fan.I belong to a bunch of outspoken fandoms. It’s cool to get pissed over someone going craycray over a ship or character.
What’s not cool, and what I will never understand, is making your ship and/or character hate personal.
We are are not the characters we like.
This may be a revelation to some people, but just because I like Hanniba,l and absolutely love his character, I do not have a burning desire to kill and consume flesh, nor do I condone cannibalism.
I love Grant Ward, that does not mean I, in anyway, condone his actions or find them excusable. I just happen to find his character arc compelling and look forward to seeing more of him to understand the choices he made.
Spike from Buffy the Vampire Slayer is probably my favorite fictional character of all time despite certain massively fucked up actions, and No, I don’t believe liking this fictional character makes me less of a feminist despite his #problematic characteristics.
You can, shockingly like a character and not be like them, nor approve of their actions.
Same goes for shipping. I really don’t like SwanQueen. I really don’t like Reginia. But what I really don’t like is the fact a few people in that fandom have attacked antishippers and implied that they are somehow less gay because they dislike this lesbian ship. Because, seriously, I am no more or less bisexual for what I ship. I promise, I don’t get bonus lesbian points everytime two fictional ladies hook up in someone’s fanfiction. * massive eye roll*
But despite this, I don’t hate on the shippers themselves. I don’t somehow think all SwanQueeners feel this way. Hell, I have a friend who loves Regina and I don’t accuse her of supporting female on male sexual abuse because that’s what ( to me) reginia represents because I know she finds that despicable. Sje just happens to ( for whatever reason) find the character interesting; despite her doing things that, in real life, she would find inexcusable.
This is what I mean about making it personal. Talk shit about my favorite characters. Insult my ships. But don’t you dare presume you know the first thing about me, my beliefs?, or my sexuality based on the exploits of fictional characters I happen to enjoy.